You are SO right about the "Golden Years". I remember my Mother and my hubby's Aunt saying the same thing when I was a bit younger. I highly recommend a TNF blocker, but that is up to you and your doctor. It saved my life. But I still have "flares" now and again..plus I have to deal with severe panic attacks and depression. I agree with you.....All of us must just do the best we can and DO TRY to think positive. A lot of research is being done, and with genetic research...a true cure may be just around the corner.