I used to go all out and decorate the whole house, have everyone over when the kids were young.We also moved away from family , but the "kids" are all here. Now, at 60...I've really slowed down and I don't have to have everything perfect . I still put up tree's, X-Mas village, big train around and we usually put lights on the outside of house. Believe it or not, it's not as much as we used to do. BUT, I have a 5 year old grandson who loves all the stuff.We have cut down on expensive gifts, try not to spend as much.