Only give it to her if you can do so without expectations, with a completely open heart. When she said, "I don't have a quilt," she probably had no idea about not just the expense, but the effort that goes into it. Which means that she might not treat it as tenderly as you would want her to. So next time you see her for a haircut, she might say something about the kids using it to make a fort. Will you be able to handle that without hard feelings?