Sounds like you understand the good intentions of your hubby, even though he really should have cleared it with you before promising. If it is something you want to do, but also want to work on what you want to do of your own projects maybe you can set aside one day a week where you work a specific amount of time that you work on one of the lap quilts and the rest of the time work on your own projects. You'll feel good about helping with the need and it won't take over all your time, nor become an unbearable chore.