Mayhaps in her youth she has not yet experienced nostalgic love and cannot quite understand how we "experienced" piecemakers truly feel. It is the love and thought that are the important part of that quilt. Give your DIL and son time to live life and learn about true life treasures. No one learns these things until they live them. Make your disappoint a positive lesson for them. Share with them some of your most treasure memories of your Aunt, if not verbally then in a letter you can give them when you feel love instead of disappointment. Our hearts are not made of cloth, our hearts go into the work we weave into cloth and sew into quilts. It all comes full circle in life. Don't stop giving because you feel unappreciated.....give more and appreciate more to your family and friends. Life is the little moments, don't miss them.
Blessed be all of you and may the bow ties bind you all together in many more beautiful memories and many more ways.
Mardi