i know i'm making too big a fuss, but i feel bad for my recipient because hers isn't up to snuff by my standards. i would accept the same flawed one from someone else and love it, but i set standards for myself--no one else-- and when i don't meet my standard i am disappointed in me. i know i can do better, and i will prove it to me, and hopefully give my partner something she will really like. that's all.