My DH does the best aiding and abetting on the planet. He gardened and ran cattle for years. I cooked whatever he brought in from the garden or the farm (nothing funky though.) He also had a full time job. I too had a full time job plus kids plus house and spouse care. When we retired, we were both whipped so now he piddles in the garden and I doodle around in my sewing room. I aid and abet him with his gardening gizmos and he does the same for me with my fabric and "stuff." So glad I met him, we are a pair!