What is the saying...... if you never use something there will be no memories attached to it to pass on...or something like that!! It would be a shame if a stain would not come out of a quilt, but the memories of that BBQ or any other event are priceless. Just a thought. I think it was grand of you to use your quilts and I am sure there were many great memories of that day taken home with everyone who attended. By the way, your quilts are beautiful!!!