I understand what you mean about feeling obligated to make a quilt. I started making them for all of my nieces and nephews for their first baby. Too many to make one for their second and third ones. There are 16 on my DH side and 12 on my side. I do make them for every one of them , but I do somewhat choose my pattern based on how I feel about them. Some of them I only see or hear from when it is time for a wedding or baby shower or things like that. They don't even come to the family Christmas party. I understand if they have other commitments. But they never come. Maybe some will feel this is wrong but that is how I do it.