I wash my quilts before gifting and let them dry flat, once dry, I use a steam iron to gently glance over the top of the quilt, barely touch it so that it only really gets a light steaming. This takes out all the major 'washing wrinkles' but doesn't leave the quilt looking flat and compressed. I have also made up a washing/care label on my computer which I just print onto card and attach to the quilt. I like the results.