Well Patrick, this is what you said:
"A lot of it boils down to intent...You have paid for your purpose and you didn't make a copy for yourself or others before giving it. Patterns and books and lots of other creative works are treated the same."
And then you said:
"Reasonable, informed, and respectful quilters simply don't do this."
So i really think you should treat Barbara with more respect. After all, she is one of your customers.