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03-08-2018, 10:19 AM

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Mousie

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Quote:

Originally Posted by willferg

You make a quilt for the cousin for whom you want to make one. I don't enjoy making quilts that aren't heartfelt and wouldn't want to take on making quilts for everyone. If anyone asks, tell them you will put them on the list and get to it when the right idea, pattern, and fabric comes to you - whenever that may be.

I like this answer, bc without the, "I'll put you on a list", response, she will just take it
as an outright rejection, and you wouldn't be asking for opinions if you were comfortable
just saying, "No, I don't want to make you a quilt."
None of us really want to say that.
I cringe when I see suggestions of teaching, simply be I have health issues and doing
good to do my own stuff. I can't concentrate with anyone, ANYone, around.
I don't know this person, but I suspect her eagerness is somewhat stirring your
empathetic side. So, put her on a list, a real list, and explain or write down, what it
takes, (in simple terms), hours, etc. so she'll understand why it's taking so long.
OR, if you really want to "just appease her and relieve your mind", use a panel and
some simple blocks for a lap quilt, with the express understanding that she not tell
who made it. If she can't pass the trust muster, let her wait.

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