Depends on what your talking abt "wedding shower or wedding day"... I've learned to ask because most young people don't appreciate the work put into it nor do they want it. I recently had a niece's shower and asked the mother who said "nope" she'd rather have something off her registry. So I know that family including her mother my SIL have no appreciation of the craft...SIL just doesn't get it. So that family is off my list. I make sure the people I make for appreciate my work.
If your talking wedding day gift then that's simple most couples now just want money...