My husband passed in 08 also. I have many of his shirts packed away with plans to make a quilt someday but not ready yet. Why not pack them away for awhile and then make the quilt. Please don't let her convince you to give them away, then you won't have that choice. We each seem to grieve in a different manner. My daughter refuses to even mention him yet he meant everything to her. She can't even talk about him yet.