My husband passed away a year ago. I cut his shirts apart from when he used to wear them. I am going to make a quilt using the fabric along with some pictures as a memory quilt. I haven't been able to work on it yet, but I will when I am ready. I understand your not being ready yet. There is no rush. Take your time. I also think your daughter is not ready yet to understand. It will take time. When you are ready, and if she is still not ready to deal with things, I would do what I need to do and not push the issue with her. The time will come when she is ready and she will appreciate the quilt much more.
Good luck,
Vicky