I live too far from grandparents graves to go. My dad has donated his body for science. Once they are done his ashes will be returned. When my mom goes, she will also be cremated. They will be buried together at a national cemetery. That will be at a distance from me. My DH was cremated as will I be. He sits on the cedar chest where I can talk to him. No need to decorate as he sits among plants and pictures