I do when I can. My parents and older siblings, aunts, uncles, grandparents are 3 hrs away. My sister looks after them along with some of my cousins. All of our cremated are in what we call "a hole in the wall" at the cemetery ( a marble wall with sealed alcoves for urns). I can remember going to the cemetery as a young child with my mom and her sisters. I learned a lot of family history there and it helped me understand dying and death. My adult kids go to their Dad's grave and take their kids with them. The grandkids ask a lot of questions about Grandpa when we're there. They also help me with upkeep. I do feel like my deceased family members appreciate our respect for their physical burial spot. I hope I mean enough to my family that they will want to honor me in that way after I'm gone.