This was something that was very big in my father's family, but now we live too far away to do it. My mother's grave is a long distance from us, also. But our daughter's grave is just 4 miles from our house, so we go there regularly and put out flowers every year and change out the decorations as the seasons change. We put out a concrete dog on her stone (she loved dogs) during the spring/summer time, a ceramic pumpkin in the fall, a wreath at Christmas, and smaller outdoor decorations as we com across them. She dropped dead at age 23, so it's been difficult to let go.
Leslie