Originally Posted by ElaineCovid

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I had a family member pass away and I asked for their clothes to make memory quilts for surviving spouse and child (if they would like - which they did).
I had the clothes for quite awhile waiting for the right inspiration. When I finally figured out the idea, I made the quilts.
Before they had been quilted or gifted, I had talked with a few friends about what ideas I was mulling over and after I decided, what I was working on. The friends did not see the works or have input on what I was doing, nor did they help. One of the friends knows the family members the quilts were intended for.

The problem... and how I handled it:
I felt the quilts were a very personal item, and that if the recipients wished, they could show the finished product.
I discussed my feelings with my closest friend and my husband - they agreed. The problem was the one friend who knows the intended recipients keeps bugging to see the quilts "before they're gone"... she even asked outright where they were when she came over for tea one day and I had another family member (who was related to recipients but didn't know about the quilts) with me. I shook my head off to the side and looked at that person, and my friend stopped talking... until we were alone. Again I re-iterated that the finished products were for the recipients and it would be their decision to share or not as it was a personal item...

Now this friend is very upset as she "knows both of them very well" and wanted to see the quilts. I told her they had been given away and she again said she was very disappointed I hadn't allowed her to see them..

Thoughts?