After my mother passed, there was such upheavel that my sister and I made a pact. We filled out advance directives and started writing down what we wanted and who we wanted certain things to go to. I have down what I want to be burried in (a nightgown or jeans and a tshirt, the things I wear all the time). And NO shoes. I am always running around barefoot. I am also going to prewright my obit. You don't realize how hard this stuff is until you start doing it for someone you love. I will not put my DH or kids through what we went through. Gwyn, you are so thoughtful and wise to tell us all to do this. Even though it is not fun, we have had some good laughs over it, too. God Bless you and your family, Gwyn. May He make His Holy Light to shine upon you.