Becky Crafts

Our DS & older DD were terrors from early childhood. Our DS got better for a time, then married & since we had to move to FL for health reasons he has only called about 6 times in 12 yrs. We keep hoping he'll realize...almost 40! The older DD came around about 21 & youngest (daughter) never gave us trouble & said she wanted to raise her kids just like I raised her. What a blessing she is!!

patricej

when my son went off to college, they kept telling him he was an adult. mind you, they expected me to pay his tuition and fees, but he was convinced he was an adult.

our first discussion of that subject went like this"

I'm an adult.

No, you are not. You are old enough to vote. You are old enough to go to war. And you are old enough to go to prison with the big boys. But you are not an adult.

When will I be an adult?

I'll let you know.

****Flash forward to a few days before his 20th birthday ****

You look unhappy. It's nearly your birthday. You should be excited.

I'm going to be 20.

What's so bad about that?

I'm going to be adult.

Yes ... I agree. I thought that's what you wanted.

Heck no! Too many obligations and responsibilities. It's gonna be a pain in the [sometimes it's the only word that fits.]

:lol: :lol: :lol:

barbaraJane

amen to that!!

Kimmy P

Actually, when mine turned 18, he minded me a little better. Probably because I told him he would listen to what I said, or he would find another place to live, and pay his own bills. He started giving me money to help with the groceries and internet service. Yeah, I feel pretty lucky.

Mimito2

I have 2 sons, oldest just turned 31is an irresponsible jack@$$. I am raising his son and have a dog he abandoned locked to a log chain. He called yest to check on the dog...
Youngest just lost his house last fall. Separated from his wife and moved back into my DGS room (his old room) and I now "have the privilege" of watching his child while he works. NO offer of pay because I am raising the other one. He now has a job that he is working 6 =10-12 hr shifts and he started fussing at me about his laundry not being taken out of the washer and dried. I quickly informed him I was not his maid nor his wife and my house was not a free hotel. If he does not like it here he can move out anytime. I also gave him fliers of day cares and told him he had better be checking them out that as soon as the weather got warmer I was going to be Unavailable. He is making money hand over fist and is blowing every penny. Brings home food and hoards it but feels free to raid anything I have in the fridge or pantry. As long as he was needing something he was sweet and helpful now he is just a jerk. Both have gotten above their raising and need to come down a few pegs. They are definitely part of the I deserve so It should be given to me crowd. SIGH...

maggiemuggins

I learned my DD was growing up ,when one day after she had been out on her own for a little bit, she said with awe in her voice."I didn't know toilet paper cost so much Mom" Hang in there hon.

fabric whisperer

Our oldest (my step-daughter I raised since she was 5) did that ~ copped a total attitude the NIGHT she turned 18 ~ "You cannot tell me what to do now" ~ "I am an adult, I make my own rules, and I'll set my own curfew". Daddy said "our house, our rules" which is how all 4 have been raised ... she didn't come home 'til 3:30 a.m., deliberately broke curfew just to prove her point.

Dad told her he'd help her pack her stuff (that got her attention, but a week later she was throwing a hissy fit again because "my friends don't have chored, you guys are just mean") ... dad offered to help pack her stuff again, and wait on the porch until someone arrived to pick her and the bags up. She had something to prove to the world that we were "meanies" and figured it would hurt us if she did move out... so what do we find the next day? All my gardening tools thrown in the outside trash on top of a pile of dog poo, our golden retreiver cowering under a table in the basement, 11 of my collectible sculptures (the ones her dad gave me for anniversaries and gifts) stolen, and a couple months later we found out that $600 was missing, and we had not had anyone over that could have taken it. Sad.

She got married this last summer, and she has turned into such a vain shallow person, it is really disheartening. She has told her hubby's family nothing but lies about us, she's still out to hurt us. So at the wedding, we "were just ourselves", had a great time, had wonderful conversation with other couples / family, and now "his family" is really wondering what is going on, because we're nothing like she said we were for the last 5 years. We're still hoping she'll wake up soon. She's 25 now, and her whole life revolves around face-value, not true deeper persona. Family is not important to her.

Son who's 22 has pulled his head outta wherever it was, tho, and has his act together... although he had children too early, he is USMC and is getting his life in order completely. yay. BOYS ARE EASIER!!!

Other two are 11.5 & 13 ... at least we've been thru this before, so it won't be as much of a shock to hubby/my system raising teens again :)

Chasing Hawk

LOL

biscuitqueen

gosh, all I can say is good luck, it does get better.

gramieb

my three sons turned out ok, i did learn you can give advice but not live their lives. we all make mistakes and hopefully learn from them. my parents got smarter as i grew older also.