Lacelady

My dad insisted that we spend as little as possible on his funeral - he had a strong opinion on the kind of profits funeral directors seemed to want. He even wanted us to find him a cardboard coffin, since he was going to be cremated, but they don't seem to be available in Ireland. In the end, each of us carried a single rose, and we draped his coffin in a quilt I had made him, of the White Ensign ( UK Royal Naval flag). I don't think the crematorium had seen anything like our dad's. He wasn't religious, so we didn't have a priest, we did our own thing, reminiscing on various aspects of his life, including landing on one of the D Day beaches in France. I noticed that all of the staff who had carried dad into the chapel for us stayed at the back to listen, and afterwards, one who gave me back his quilt, was kind enough to say that if it weren't for people like my dad, Ireland might have not been able to stay neutral during WW2.

It was a very kind thing to say, and I really appreciated it.

bearisgray

I like the idea -

Sort of like a civilian "flag" to put over the casket

Ramona Byrd

I've told my kids that I want to be cremated, after the doctors have used whatever parts of my body I'm through with, then I want my kids to hurl my ashes at whatever neighbor I'm mad at at that time. The rest I want put in the mountains in Yosemite where my late DH and I back packed on our honeymoon. Or else in my dear Milton, WV hills where I spent my childhood, wondering over those green, green hills.

Nanamoms

Actually, this is weird. I was just thinking about this last week. I am highly allergic to most flowers although plants are ok. I think the quilt would be perfect and I'm going to add that to my "requests". As they say, I hardly ever get flowers/plants now so I certainly can't enjoy them when I'm gone!

Cattyqwltr

that thought has crossed my mind a time or two. I'm not into flowers myself and would prefer something a little longer lasting.

bearisgray

I've also told my family not to spend a lot of money on a casket for my body (not that I'm particularly concerned that they will :? )

My feeling is that - if I can't afford decent furniture now - what's the point in spending a lot of money on something that's just going to get put in the ground - after only a couple of days of ownership?

Unless it's a tree or something like that, of course.

QuiltE

Pre-arrange your funeral ... then no one can mess with your wishes in a sudden moment of stoic guilty grief!!!!!

Lori S

I would rather have a colorful bouquet (s) of fat quarters , and those that attend can take from the bouquet .... I would rather have that than funeral cards.

QuiltE

Now there's a way for us to distribute our stashes!!! :)

natalieg

They have been doing funeral quilts for several years now. I intened on making mine and one for mom as well.