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    Old 09-01-2009, 05:40 AM
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    When giving quilts as a gift are you hesitant to give someone one if you know they really won't appreciate it or properly take care of it? I would like to make a quilt for my sister-in-law and her husband. They will be married 2 years in May (her 2nd marriage) and I thought about making them a throw as a combined Christmas and anniversary gift. I've made her stuff before - like cross stitch, or some other crafty thing - and she's not that enthused about it. I think her husband would appreciate it more. Should I still make one for them? I wanted to make a throw since it's something they could both use - you know to just drape over a couch or something. They are currently living out of the country due to his job and might be visiting in January. But I wouldn't be surprised if she just left it here with her parents for "when they come back to the states". What are your opinions.
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    Old 09-01-2009, 05:43 AM
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    Once you give a gift, you need to let it go.

    If you do not think your quilt will be loved and appreciated, then find them something they will love and appreciate.

    Mostly only other quilters really "get" the meaning of quilts. There are some other enlightened people out there, but not very many!!

    That's my two-cents for what it's worth.
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    Old 09-01-2009, 05:44 AM
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    I think you answered your own question. If you are worried about it, follow your heart. I would just give her a gift certificate to a place close to home.

    Also, if they live out of the country it may be difficult to take it back with them, since it is so expensive to pay for the luggage and the weight limitations are very strict.

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    Old 09-01-2009, 05:46 AM
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    Originally Posted by Esqmommy
    Once you give a gift, you need to let it go.

    If you do not think your quilt will be loved and appreciated, then find them something they will love and appreciate.

    Mostly only other quilters really "get" the meaning of quilts. There are some other enlightened people out there, but not very many!!

    That's my two-cents for what it's worth.
    I agree.
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    Old 09-01-2009, 05:47 AM
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    I had a family member who was of similar nature. I decided to make a wall hanging instead, doing a 'family tree'. The bunches of leaves were each person, clustered together to make more 'leaves'. Embroidery machine made that very easy. At the bottom of the piece, I made a 'frame', in which they could put the current 4x6 family photo. It was hung on the wall where everyone coming in to the house saw it first!
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    Old 09-01-2009, 06:12 AM
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    i wouldn't make them a quilt - it seems like they would prefer a gift more to their tastes and likes.
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    Old 09-01-2009, 06:15 AM
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    Personally, I wouldn't bother, but that's me. A lot of time, effort and money goes into a quilt, and to have someone not even appreciate it, would really tick me off. That's my 2 cents worth.
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    I wouldn't make a quilt for someone unless I was pretty sure they would appreciate it and enjoy it. Not everyone "understands" quilts.
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    Old 09-01-2009, 06:16 AM
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    Thanks for your thoughts. I've decided against the quilt and will think of something else.
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    Old 09-01-2009, 06:19 AM
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    Well to be frank & really honest with you if I were a little hesitant as to whether the recipient of the quilt would appreciate & look after it let alone love it - then I have to say no I don't think I would make a quilt for them.
    I would choose something else that would be more fitting to their taste.

    It's a good job we're all different I suppose.

    Hope you find something which they will appreciate.

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