"Just let me get my magic wand..."
12-27-2017, 10:01 AM
#181
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I don't have a story like this yet (I suspect it's because there aren't yet enough people who know I quilt) but I do want to say I like this thread. While reveling in other's lack of understanding isn't quite my cup of tea, it's great to see artisans truely valuing their work!
Good supplies cost good money, skilled labor is not cheap, and quality equipment does not grow on trees. Even if most of our works are gifted we deserve recognition for how much we are giving.
Good supplies cost good money, skilled labor is not cheap, and quality equipment does not grow on trees. Even if most of our works are gifted we deserve recognition for how much we are giving.
"While reveling in other's lack of understanding isn't quite my cup of tea, it's great to see artisans truely valuing their work!"
That is exactly how I feel.
PPL don't mean to be so offensive. Most of the time they have
delved into a subject that they are just totally ignorant about and
when you give them, (shocking to them), information,
they sometimes don't know how to react, so they act defensively.
Getting their defensive attitude raises our own hackles and a new misunderstanding
and uncomfortable feelings are born.
Sometimes the bell cannot be unrung either.
I've only had one person outside of my family to ask for a quilt
and I honestly said that
sewing for other ppl makes me nervous and I won't do it.
What she doesn't know, and won't, is that if I find the time, I will
be making her a lap sized quilt.
I don't let anyone know when I'm working on something, bc I just
can't quilt under pressure.
I know she doesn't have a clue what the cost is or the time involved,
but I know that when the time comes, she will love this quilt.
I suggest we all have some kind of response ready ahead of time, or something written in your pocket or purse that explains your view of
quilt making costs, time etc.
A few words written out, can really clear things up on both sides.
Having said all of this, trying to put myself in other ppl's shoes and
give them the benefit of the doubt, there will always be rude/greedy
ppl in this world.
We need to stand up for what we believe in and assert
our artisanship!
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12-27-2017, 10:11 AM
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Before I became a quilter, I was a seamstress, meaning I did custom sewing & alterations for the public. I made a beautiful New Years Eve dress for a friend of mine, she told me she got lots of compliments on it. She said to me 'I hope you don't mind but I told everyone I made it.' That was the last thing I ever made for her.
12-27-2017, 10:13 AM
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I have two magic wand stories
My husband came home from work on a Fri. night and announced he needed a baby quilt for a co worker mon. morning Sure, just whip it up in a week-end
I made a quilt for each of my new step children fro Christmas and to make them feel a part of the family. When they opened them their mom asked "what are we suppose to do with these"? Very disappointing to me. I thought I did a good thing.
My husband came home from work on a Fri. night and announced he needed a baby quilt for a co worker mon. morning Sure, just whip it up in a week-end
I made a quilt for each of my new step children fro Christmas and to make them feel a part of the family. When they opened them their mom asked "what are we suppose to do with these"? Very disappointing to me. I thought I did a good thing.
12-27-2017, 10:22 AM
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12-27-2017, 10:33 AM
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I made a quilt for a friend's new grandaughter, (she is not a close friend), next time we met she informed me "It's not fair that Kate is the only one with a quilt I have five other grand children who would like quilts".
Needless to say I now keep her at a distance. Some people have no idea how long a quilt takes to make plus the expence.
Needless to say I now keep her at a distance. Some people have no idea how long a quilt takes to make plus the expence.
12-27-2017, 10:39 AM
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I was thinking the same thing, bear.
If my husband volunteered me...well, let's just say that after 40 plus years, he knows
better!
This whole thread is just one of the reasons I count my anxiety as a blessing at times.
I have a disorder and CAN'T make quilts for other ppl.
I have no problem almost swallowing my tongue when asked to do things,...leaves no
doubt that I will not be doing repairs or making quilts.
You guys, just say, "I'm booked until let's see...2023, or is that 24?"...they'll get
the message.
12-27-2017, 10:46 AM
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I was thinking the same thing, bear.
If my husband volunteered me...well, let's just say that after 40 plus years, he knows
better!
This whole thread is just one of the reasons I count my anxiety as a blessing at times.
I have a disorder and CAN'T make quilts for other ppl.
I have no problem almost swallowing my tongue when asked to do things,...leaves no
doubt that I will not be doing repairs or making quilts.
You guys, just say, "I'm booked until let's see...2023, or is that 24?"...they'll get
the message.
12-27-2017, 10:59 AM
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oh my goodness at the various emotions I've gone through on this thread, but this
right here made me laugh out loud, wildyard!
12-27-2017, 06:37 PM
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I made a lovely memory quilt for my husband years ago.....going to the trouble of doing the photo onto fabric and personalizing it all...and he loved it. Fast forward to a few years later when he promised a woman he worked with (whom I didn't know) that I would make her the same kind of quilt.....not being paid... just out of the goodness of my heart....for her first grandchild. She would give him the photos she wanted on the quilt. I never even gave it a thought when I told him no and he was fluxomed.....wondering why I wouldn't do it. I told him that when he gave me $300 for my quilt making services, I would make the quilt....obviously the $300 never materialized...nor did the quilt. He's never promised my services again.....what nerve!
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