Perfectionist vs. Good Enoughist
#71
I'm not a perfectionist by any standards but I do notice that when I make a quilt I always find something about it that I don't like. However, once it's finished and time passes I tend to forget about whatever bugged me. I'm like that about a lot of things.
I've also noticed that non-quilters don't see mistakes unless they are glaring and mine aren't quite that bad!
Around the house I'm laid back. I'd like everything a lot tidier than it is but lack the ambition to do it! I'd much rather be sewing or gardening.
I've also noticed that non-quilters don't see mistakes unless they are glaring and mine aren't quite that bad!
Around the house I'm laid back. I'd like everything a lot tidier than it is but lack the ambition to do it! I'd much rather be sewing or gardening.
Very interesting thread. I enjoyed reading the thoughts of others.
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Perfectly said RhondaLee!
I’m the last from a family of 7 and a lot of us are like that. The ones that aren’t…..sure aren’t. My brother next in line to me is the ultimate perfectionist which is pretty handy considering he’s a Literal rocket scientist. His hair stands up if he’s in a room where there’s an 89 degree angle. We went back and forth for 4 days when I told him how to make spaghetti sauce and didn’t give him quantities. ("Whadya mean 'add garlic cloves'?”) Boy, was that an experience.
I love all the attitudes on here. I’m trying not to be perfect on the quilting front (not that I ever was—far from it) because I find that trying to make them perfect takes the fun out of it. I don’t enjoy it and find it stressful. But, at the same time, if it’s a gift I want it to be really nice but finding that balance point can be tough.
I’m the last from a family of 7 and a lot of us are like that. The ones that aren’t…..sure aren’t. My brother next in line to me is the ultimate perfectionist which is pretty handy considering he’s a Literal rocket scientist. His hair stands up if he’s in a room where there’s an 89 degree angle. We went back and forth for 4 days when I told him how to make spaghetti sauce and didn’t give him quantities. ("Whadya mean 'add garlic cloves'?”) Boy, was that an experience.
I love all the attitudes on here. I’m trying not to be perfect on the quilting front (not that I ever was—far from it) because I find that trying to make them perfect takes the fun out of it. I don’t enjoy it and find it stressful. But, at the same time, if it’s a gift I want it to be really nice but finding that balance point can be tough.
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Perfectly said RhondaLee!
I’m the last from a family of 7 and a lot of us are like that. The ones that aren’t…..sure aren’t. My brother next in line to me is the ultimate perfectionist which is pretty handy considering he’s a Literal rocket scientist. His hair stands up if he’s in a room where there’s an 89 degree angle. We went back and forth for 4 days when I told him how to make spaghetti sauce and didn’t give him quantities. ("Whadya mean 'add garlic cloves'?”) Boy, was that an experience.
I love all the attitudes on here. I’m trying not to be perfect on the quilting front (not that I ever was—far from it) because I find that trying to make them perfect takes the fun out of it. I don’t enjoy it and find it stressful. But, at the same time, if it’s a gift I want it to be really nice but finding that balance point can be tough.
I’m the last from a family of 7 and a lot of us are like that. The ones that aren’t…..sure aren’t. My brother next in line to me is the ultimate perfectionist which is pretty handy considering he’s a Literal rocket scientist. His hair stands up if he’s in a room where there’s an 89 degree angle. We went back and forth for 4 days when I told him how to make spaghetti sauce and didn’t give him quantities. ("Whadya mean 'add garlic cloves'?”) Boy, was that an experience.
I love all the attitudes on here. I’m trying not to be perfect on the quilting front (not that I ever was—far from it) because I find that trying to make them perfect takes the fun out of it. I don’t enjoy it and find it stressful. But, at the same time, if it’s a gift I want it to be really nice but finding that balance point can be tough.
But there are some dishes/meals/concoctions such as soup, chili, casseroles - that are fairly flexible - but if one does want consistent results, specific amounts of ingredients are helpful.
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I like this answer a lot, bc if you worked hard on a quilt, and let's face it,
any quilt is work even if we love doing it.
You give that quilt to a loved one no matter how you would rate it 1-10
and they think it's a 10.
Now isn't that perfection in their eyes?
Doesn't that make both of you really happy?
My grands have drawn pictures for me and made me things and I think
they are perfect just the way they are and wouldn't part with them.
I belong to a decorating site on FB and one lady posted a picture
yesterday and you were looking at a wall and could see her living
room to the left and her dining room to the right.
You could clearly tell she had a nice home but her caption said:
The best decoration in my house, and it showed a picture
drawn on a piece of construction paper and clearly it had I Love You
all over it in crayon, not in words but it was there. Awwww!!!!
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I hadn't thought of that! But you know, I peel them off so carefully I don't think there
is much butter left on them.
Oh the things we do without even knowing!
That's it - I am going to start having more fun and less fuss
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Oh, this thread is so interesting. I spent my career being a perfectionist, going the extra mile, etc. ... which made me happy then. I found myself trying to be "all things to all people" at work, at home, in life ... until I realized the more I did, the more others "didn't". Haha. I'm a self-taught quilter ... never taken a class mainly because nowhere nearby to take one. So, obviously, I've learned the hard way. I'm like "mhollifiel" stated ... there are too many people in need that can use a quilt so I strive to do "my" best to meet that need while quilting to the best of my ability. That's what makes me happy. Oh, I've ripped many a stitch mostly because something was just too obvious ... but not because it "had to be perfect".
God Bless those who enter Quit Shows. I do love going to see their work and admire their attention to detail and how intricate their work is.
God Bless those who enter Quit Shows. I do love going to see their work and admire their attention to detail and how intricate their work is.
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In my experience a quilt does not need to be perfect to be cherished. Usually, the only one who is aware of its faults is the one who sewed/quilted it.
That said, nothing is ever truly just "good enough" if you have put blood, sweat, and tears into it. It may not be perfection but it's still a job well done.
I do understand what the OP meant by good enough though. I just don't want people to underestimate what they have accomplished by finishing a project.
That said, nothing is ever truly just "good enough" if you have put blood, sweat, and tears into it. It may not be perfection but it's still a job well done.
I do understand what the OP meant by good enough though. I just don't want people to underestimate what they have accomplished by finishing a project.
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