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You are a sister anyone would want. Such a loving thing to do unlike my older sister who thinks anything and everything that was Mom's should be hers. I love to hear of gracious incidents like this. God Bless ya gal!
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Little Sisters - grrr! Don't worry, Karma is a beeotch! My mom always said 'you get what you give' and she'll eventually 'get hers'. It amazes me how selfish and uncaring people can be. Debbie C.
I love all the generous and loving comments that have been expressed on this topic. I agree with all the good attitudes expressed, etc. However, after many such instances by a sibling including adult temper tantrums to get what she wants, enough is enough. I won't go into the gory details, I go with Debbie C.' s mom. We will face quite a family drama when my parents go home to be with the Lord. I will hate it. I am not really into lots of things so I will chalk it off as "What goes around comes around." GOD IS GOOD ALL THE TIME! |
You will be blessed for being so understanding. Good job.
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What a good sister you are - that was really a good deed that you did.
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When my mom passed in 1987, I asked for and got 1 thing, it was a cedar chest I remember from earliest days, and as long as I was "aware" it was always there. My sister and brother got all the "expensive, crystal, china, silver, and jewlery." To me it wasn't about the loot, I was just too devastated with grief. I already had every thing I wanted, and about 6 months before my mom passed she had given me some very special trinkets that meant the world. Needless to say I have never regretted that decision, and plan to pass out my stuff to my kids, long before the day arrives that they may get bruised feelings over it, or show their "not so nice side". You did the right thing and there is a very special FW out there for you.:)
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HUGS! You are the kind of person I pray I can be.
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you have given your sister something much deeper than "just" a featherweight. you have given her the love involved in the experience and memories she got as a child--and you have given her the love that a sister can feel, especially knowing how important the "having" of a thing can be. you can bet she will never forget how important your gesture was. she will always cherish both her sister and the machine.
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What a good person you are, and no one can take that away. I always wanted a sister to share my feelings with , but not so much now. We had a favorite child in the family, he got most of my parents things, but it really didn`t help him much. And While I was poor most of my life, GOD blessed us so much. First we learned how to work hard, pay our bills, (I held 3 part time jobs when one of my girls wanted to get married and one wanted to go on to school) and do with out, it now paid off. Because our girls both have very good jobs and married good men, They too know how to use thier money well. And we came into some thing so unexpected that it now is good.
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I've read all the posts so far. No one has shared this perspective. Serendipity is a woman like you finding, caring for and using a cherished FW that once belonged to someone. Maybe even someone's mother. That someone had no one to give it to. No one wanted that precious little machine that had hummed its way through yards and yards of fabric...
That person may have prayed for you. Someone that would love, care for, and use such a tool. None of us ever knows where we will be guided next. It's just our job to listen and trust. I relate to your story. I am the youngest. I cared for my mother for 30+ years. She wrote my name on the back of the one thing I asked for, an embroidered Lord's Prayer made by her mother. My oldest sister refuses to honor her choice. My MIL heard this and spent 3 months making me an amazing counted cross stitch Lord's Prayer. I love her way more than that framed stitchery! God is good. |
Your sister will also have good memories of you for doing what you did. Bless you!!
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I'm sorry this happened. We have the same favoritism in my family with my sister. She can do no wrong and I can do no right. We have both our parents yet but when the time comes, I won't get much. Her husband will take over and tell my brothers and me what will happen. That will make some strong enemies. She may get over her anger and eventually let you have the lamp.
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Originally Posted by Kas
Well, I didn't get my Mom's Featherweight. She was going to give it to me, but when I was telling my big sister about it, she asked me, "The little black one?" Yes. Then she said, "Oh! I learned to sew on that machine! I loved sewing so much!" It was obvious she wanted it and had memories of it and Mama. I have to say that my mom had just given a Tiffany lamp that I had wanted for 35 years (and been told all those years was mine) to my little sister who knew it had been promised to me earlier and took it anyway. My big sister wanted the Featherweight but wouldn't say so. I told her I didn't want her to feel what I was feeling and if she wanted it to say so. She finally admitted she would love to have it. I gave it to her joyfully. She had always wanted and loved it, I only found out about it (realized my mom's machine was a Featherweight) a couple of years ago. I can always buy a new one, she can't replace the memories. The search begins! And I am looking for one with the pretty scrolled face, not the straight lines like Mama's.
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What a great sister you are. I hope you're successful in your search for the FW
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I do understand. I had three sisters. One died of ovarian cancer in November of 04 and my mom died in April of 05. They left me with the two needy sisters. They are into the possessions. To me it is just stuff. I have my memories. I know how you feel. It isn't always fair. Maybe some day you will be able to express your feelings about the lamp. Yes, you are a great sister.
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You're such a good sister. I think that was a good decision. I am kind of glad that I don't have to worry about that kind of thing since my Mom and my Sister are both gone.
All my stuff will go to my son, who at this point in his life could care less. You did good. |
your a good sister
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Forgive the little sister if you can -- the one who is hurting here is you and the lamp isn't worth it. It really IS just stuff in the long run. You might find that YOU will feel better if you can forgive her!
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You did a good thing. Makes you feel good about yourself, doesn't it. :thumbup:
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Nothing is worth loosing a sister over. I would give anything to have had a sister - including any of my 3 brothers! LOL When I went to clear out our parents home I told my brothers we could have fun and share lots of fond memories with each other or loose each other over "possessions". In the end we had lots of laughs and some of my favorite things are in one of my brother's homes. I seem to have ended up with all the funny looking family portraits. I hung them my laundry room.
My SIL got my Gram's treadle machine that I loved. A distant realtive talked Mom out of her full length fur coat. Mom had lost her memory. I hope the woman enjoys the coat. |
Oh my. I am trying to forgive her. At least I have forgiven Mama. I didn't expect it from her. Lil sis didn't surprise me at all, sadly. Me and my big sister had some great laughs going through the huge pile to the ceiling in her old room. We cleared it out. She about pulled my arm out of the socket grabbing her old Peter Frampton poster! LOL! She had such a crush on him when she was a teenager. Funny!
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I saw a Featherweight machine with case and attachments in Meredith, N. H. on Thursday, the 28th of April. It was in excellent condition. It is at Once New Vintage Wares. Phone #603-279-5151. The owners name is Cheryl Hook. Hope it will still be available. I do own one. My mother bought it for me when I was in junior high. This model # is 221.
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Aaaawwww!!! You're the best sister ever!
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what a great sister you are
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That was so kind of you. What goes around comes around. You won't regret this!
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Originally Posted by IrelandDragonQuilting
I have to say, what goes around, comes around. I cannot wait to see the prize of a FW that is coming your way!
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I wanted my grandmothers china.........Mom gave it to my little sister. Took me a while to accept that but I have. I'm glad you took the high road and gave your sister the Featherweight which meant so much to her.
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I feel very sad for you because it is hard sometimes to stand firm and insist when you do want something. I am the middle of three sisters and I am still "learning" to stand up for myself. You will be blessed with a "beauty" when you find your own.
My heart goes out to you honey. sandy14 |
Your mother would be so proud of your decision! You will find a terrific featherweight soon.
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WOW It is really special to hear of such generosity. My oldest sister is the rotten one and wouldn't think of giving up anything to the other bros. and sisters. She is very very materialistic and when mom was alive she seen to it that this daughter was treated special. Well, it is what it is but you are defitely a very special person.
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You're a good sister. Been there and done that myself after my Mother passed away. You'll be content that your sisters have the memories of your mom that they wished for.
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Just look at all you have! Integrity, generosity, compassion, self respect, you are an amazing person, you should be the envy of your sisters.
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