Ok, I brought Misty home yesterday and I put her in her new room. I planned on keeping her segregated from Schmooey for a week at least. It's not going to happen. The first night she cried until I came in. I had to spend the night with her and she wouldn't let me sleep. Apparently she doesn't sleep at all at night.
Today I opened the door and let her kind of wander, Schmoo saw her and they basically eye-balled each other for a long time with low growling sounds from Schmoo. Misty didn't respond but she seems rather timid.
I have to work tomorrow and it breaks my heart to lock her the bedroom for the whole day so she will feel more secure. I'm afraid she will just cry all day and I'm not sure what to do with tonight, should I let her roam, or just give another night of sleep and spend it with her locked in the bedroom? Not sure what to do, but it looks like either way she will be spending a good part of the day in the room by herself.
Schmoo hasn't made any aggressive moves towards her at all, but I also don't want to jones her out either, especially if I am not home.
I hate stress and I know it will blow over in a couple of weeks or so, but I'm stressed right now and tired.
Are they both kitties???
If so I would segregate them while you're at work. It takes awhile to get used to a newcomer and the little one will probably be fine in a room alone (and safer)
My experience :) After awhile they may be great pals!
Also- I think it's very stressful getting a new pet. Take care!
Yes, both are kitties. I will separate then while I am gone, it just breaks my heart that she will cry for me while I'm gone. She doesn't seem to what leave my side and if I get up to do something she wants to be right there.
I wasn't going to make the introductions so fast, but hubby disagreed, since we know that Schmoo is a wuss and this cat is so timid, there wouldn't be any fighting and there hasn't been, just stares and growls by Schmoo. Misty just stares and hunkers down.
When I brought SammiCat home, he spent three days in the extra bath before I let him out with Mia. Miss Mia was 3/4 Siberian and 1/4 wolf, so I didn't want to take any chances. They became the best of friends. I'm sure the cats will, too. A few days in isolation won't hurt the kitten. It'll give her time to get used to the smells and sounds of your household. Tonight make sure she has food, a litter box and a soft bed, then close the door.
With new incoming dogs, I feed the two an extremely yummy food side by side - with supervision, of course. For some reason, eating together cements the fact that the newcomer lives here.
I have never seperated my cats when I have brought a new one home. Of course there was the usual hissing and ignoring of each other, but the resident kitties where just trying to establish their alpha kitty position. It's taken from a couple of days to months for all the cats to accept the new one but they learn to live in harmony!
I would introduce them, let them spend time together. They will make noises at each other for a while, a week or two, but should eventually start settling in to each other's company. Since neither one is aggressive, they should be okay after a little time.
She's actually a 1-1/2 year old rescue. She has a whole bedroom, but the crying at night kept us awake so I went in and spent the night with her. I guess when I have to leave her to go to work tomorrow I won't hear the crying.
Ugggh, I hate drama, yet I am drawn to the drama, LOL.
Hubby's of the mind to let her out and let them go at it, I'm more of a let's let them meet gradually, but the opportunity presented itself this morning and I went with it.
Thanks again all for the tips. I have to take her to the vet. Apparently she had a scratched eye at the beginning of the month and the paperwork said she had antibiotics 2 times a day, yet the paperwork shows she had it once a day for about 6 days. Her eye looks a little funny, with the little white hood visible and she's closing it a little more than the other one.
Well, I have a feeling that when she realizes you aren't home, and she will eventually, she'll go to sleep.
I want to see a pic! :)
see my response before yours, I posted her picture there. Thanks
Do they have their claws? Keep an eye on them.
If not, that's one less worry. They might have hissy-fits but can't scratch.