Just have to vent my son Peter has his friend over to play they are both 11 years old. This other boy is - difficult? He isn't respectful to adults, when I tell him not to do something he rolls his eyes at me. If he were my child he'd be in so much trouble for doing that to me or anyone else. He back talks to adults and others, tries to shift blame when he's been caught doing something...the list goes on. I know you're thinking send the child home and don't let him influence your kid right? Peter has trouble making and keeping friendships. He plays with kids at school but doesn't really attach and become best friends. So, I worry...
I invited his parents out boating with us a couple of weekends ago it was an eye opener. He's an only child and the parents seem to not parent him but 'encourage' him to make the right choices. The mom is REALLY into her two dogs which she brought with them boating. She talks to them lovingly and affectionately like children, it seemed that their well being and needs really came first before husband and child. It was interesting. They were almost 2 hours late because the mom kept forgetting stuff at home, first the tie downs for the dogs, then whether she locked the doors to the house. So, I kind of get why the boy is the way he is... Okay I am done venting he's only here for a few hours I can handle it :-\

Oh my, the poor child! Thanks for trying to do the right thing by all concerned. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree! I will pray that friends and good nurturing stable families can give the child a better picture of how things can be.

Your home may be the only place that he can feel safe and get attention.

My kids had friends with parents that were "less than ideal" to put it nicely. (One had a mother that would tell him to "Go to the store and get me a pack of ciggarettes...DON'T get caught!!" )

I treated these kids like they were my own. They rolled their eyes at something I said, they got in trouble. I gave them a time to "be home" just like my own kids, and when they were late, they got grounded like my own kids. They ate dinner with us? They helped clean up. They mouthed off? They got to spend an hour weeding the garden. They always did what I told them, they knew the alternative was to not be able to come over again...

The best thing you can do for that child is exactly what Charlee says.....I had kids like that at my home, too, and treated them just like my own. They're still friends and seemed to appreciate it. They also knew I loved them as my own....something they weren't getting at home.

There are times when I wonder how some kids even manage to grow up to be adults. They raise themselves and get there some how.

Good luck on helping this young man grow up. It may not seem as though you are getting through, but you will.

I agree with Charlee . When I have other people kids in my home they will do what my grand kids do. They will help where it is needed or they aren't welcome back.
Alot of time these days its the kids friends parents that help raise these kids that have parents where the dogs get more love then the kids do.
Give the kids a little love and they will love you until they die. and they will remeber who it was that loved them. Give them cookie and had them weeding the flower beds.
Good luck with the kido

When I had day care kids, or my children s' friends over the parents and kids understood "My house, MY rules!!!!" My rules were strict (some said too strict!) but loving!! RESPECT was taught here along with love.

I really feel for you as I have been there and done that 3x's over and now sometimes with any new friends that my 15 yr old daughter brings home. I treat all children as I do my own and will not put up with disrespect! But sometimes know matter how caring you are or what you do it will not change things. I suggest letting the other child know your rules and what you expect at your house! Just trying to help. Ms. Shawn :mrgreen: :thumbup: :XD:

Way to go! I agree with you! :XD: