I totally understand being disappointed when someone doesn't appreciate the effort made for them.
But honestly, how is someone supposed to feel when they are given a gift that they don't appreciate the colors, don't know what they are going to do with it, and/or have absolutely no idea why someone would make them a handmade gift?
I know what I like. There are some fabrics that I plain just don't like. I personally don't think the BT bag is the second coming. Its my opinion, but I think its kind of goofy to make a cowboy purse to match a cowboy outfit. It is perfectly fine if you do, but if someone gave me a cowboy bow tucks bag. I would be dumbfounded as to what to do with it. I know that the creator put much effort into that bag, but if the creator really knew me, and thought I was "worth" it, why don't they know me well enough to know that I have no USE for the cowboy purse?
I read the post of the person who made purses, and the recipients were less than squealing, but I personally wouldn't want someone making me a purse, AND I SEW. I like to pick out my own. And honestly with all the people on here who nitpick that people don't treat their goods properly, I would be afraid to use aforementioned gift in front of the creator, lest they should think I wasn't using it properly.
I read a post earlier from someone who said that a grandson had told her he didn't want a quilt. So....guess what....she didn't make him one. She is a genius. (I did like the idea, to make one and put it away, should he ever change his mind). But honestly if you are going to pour hours of your life into something, wouldn't you like to KNOW that the recipient is going to appreciate your work?
Last year, I agonized over giving a quilt to the M-I-L. I was worried because we were buying the SF-I-L a gift and the MIL was getting the quilt, and I didn't want HER to feel slighted. The husband reassured me that MIL would probably cry if I gave it to her, so I stitched along. Sure enough, she loves its, and the quilt is regularly used.
This year, I thought about making a quilt for the SIL. She is 10. I KNEW she wouldn't appreciate it, but I was just going to make it a BONUS gift, along with her video games. In the end, after conferring with the mother (this would be S-MIL, not the MIL mentioned above), we determined that halfway completed quilt pink/yellows, greens color palette would not be a good match for SIL's new fondness for black and blue.
Surely, you KNOW these people that you have decided to pour blood sweat and tears into making these gifts. Surely you KNOW their personal style if you are making them a gift that is intended to compliment their personal style. SURELY you know what their preference is in a color palette. If you don't know these things, why are you starting to begin with?
I realize that it is hard to make something and have it not appreciated, but everyone has their own personal taste, and anything in opposition to that whether storebought or handmade is not going to be appreciated.