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Thread: Am I being "set up?"

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    There is a lady that I know through my son's boys club. It seems lately that every time I see her she "has a little something" for me. Either it's old clothes that she's bought at a yard sale or some 'cotton' fabric from who knows where. This gal is a hoarder, so I don't know if she's digging it out of her house, or passing on what she's picked up and doesn't need.
    But, deep in my gut, I'm wondering 'when' she's going to pop the question. I'm afraid she's going to ask me to make her a quilt. Then of course I'll be holding to her because she's "given" me so much stuff. She is a bit of an odd duck.
    The reality is the stuff she gives me, I don't like at all. I'm not a scrap quilter. I'm the "buy what I need for a project" person.
    Am I being paranoid?

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    Save the fabric and when she does ask make a quick quilt out of the fabric :) something very very easy! I have friends that like to give but if you have that feeling be prepared.

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    She could just be a nice person, but she could be getting around to popping the question. If you don't mind making one, then make it. If you don't want to I would be prepared with the list of things I have on my plate, so I just cannot possibly find the time. I would probably put all of the stuff together that she gave me, so that if she says "after all I gave to you..." I could tell her she can have it back if she wants it. JMO

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    I suppose that I would tell her that I appreciate her thinking of me but that's not the kind of fabric I use for quilting.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tjradj
    There is a lady that I know through my son's boys club. It seems lately that every time I see her she "has a little something" for me. Either it's old clothes that she's bought at a yard sale or some 'cotton' fabric from who knows where. This gal is a hoarder, so I don't know if she's digging it out of her house, or passing on what she's picked up and doesn't need.
    But, deep in my gut, I'm wondering 'when' she's going to pop the question. I'm afraid she's going to ask me to make her a quilt. Then of course I'll be holding to her because she's "given" me so much stuff. She is a bit of an odd duck.
    The reality is the stuff she gives me, I don't like at all. I'm not a scrap quilter. I'm the "buy what I need for a project" person.
    Am I being paranoid?
    You're probably not being paranoid. I wouldn't have taken the stuff from her in the first place. Definitely stop taking stuff from her.

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    If she's a hoarder who is trying to dig out, giving the fabric to someone who she thinks will use it is probably the strategy she is using to offload it.

    What might work would be to tell her that it's not your style, but you will gladly pass it on to a charity or guild or something where it will be put to good use. If she's hoping to set you up for making a quilt, then she won't continue to give to you. But if she is honestly trying to rehome and declutter, then that may satisfy her criteria. Better yet, you could give her a list of charity quilters or people who accept random fabric, and let her do the giving.

    RST

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    Great answer, RST!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Quiltforme
    Save the fabric and when she does ask make a quick quilt out of the fabric :) something very very easy! I have friends that like to give but if you have that feeling be prepared.
    I really hate to say this but this is sort of a doormat answer. Nobody can take advantage of you unless you let them and "saving the fabric and making a quick quilt" when it's *not* what you want to do is definitely letting somebody take advantage of you.

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    She may just be a "giver". If you really don't care for what she's passed on to you, just pass it on to someone else who will use it.

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    Oh aare you a kind person.

    Quote Originally Posted by Scissor Queen
    Quote Originally Posted by Quiltforme
    Save the fabric and when she does ask make a quick quilt out of the fabric :) something very very easy! I have friends that like to give but if you have that feeling be prepared.
    I really hate to say this but this is sort of a doormat answer. Nobody can take advantage of you unless you let them and "saving the fabric and making a quick quilt" when it's *not* what you want to do is definitely letting somebody take advantage of you.

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