I am no longer going to make pureses for family I worked soooo hard getting every one a purse to only have them not like them. They were like oh ths is what you got us? It is not what i expected exspeacially after working so hard but one thing i have learned it is not their thing. I felt like i worked for nothing. I wish they could know how much work and love went into them.
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so sorry that happened to you
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That is part of the problem-they have no idea how much work or love goes into making a gift for someone. It is tough being disappointed in that way. I am sorry that happened to you!
Many hugs, Ruth |
Shame on them, I would be very grateful.
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I am so sorry. Some people just don't appreciate our hard work.
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wow, I made all the women in my family purses this yr for Christmas too, they all said they like them or at least thats what I was told, but i do think they did, it takes me about 4 hours a purse, its a labor of love, sorry this was a bad experience for you.
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Yes, not everyone loves homemade gifts...sad, but true. Just make purses for those that do appreciate them and everyone else gets a gift card. (((( Hugs to you))))
Blessings, MaryAnna |
I guess no one taught them basic manners...and as I say that, I'm hoping that 'they' aren't your kids! :)
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Oh geez,
Take them all back and send them to us.......lol |
Hugs coming your way. I'm so sorry.
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then adopt me. I love anything handmade and truly appreciate the hard work put into it.
That said- my dil made me a bow tucks purse. I LOVE it! Don't feel unappreciated- they will come around. |
I found that out this summer. I made bow tuck purses for DIL and DGDs (18 and 20) and no one thought much of them. My old lady, like me, friends love them. Live and learn.
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I have been through that before. I feel for you. I am more particular now who I give my hand made things to.
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You can adopt me too!!! I don't know how to sew anything but quilts.
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Some just don't get it - they think only store bought will do :roll:
So sorry you got the response - truly tacky :thumbdown: |
Sorry, you efforts went unappreciated.
What happened to manners. Even if someone gives me something that is not spot on to my likings, I am always thankful. If it is handmade even more so. |
I am so sorry that your family reacted to all your hard work like that - it must be so upsetting - keep your chin up.
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It almost sounds like they didn't even know you made them as opposed to *store-bought*. Whatever :-( Tell them how you feel. Let them know you thought about each person with love as you made their purse for them. Let them know that if they really don't like them you'll be glad to take them back to give to someone else. Ask them how they feel about your handmade gifts. If they honestly don't appreciate the gifts, it saves you worrying about trying so hard to please them.
While I wish I could please all my relatives with my art, I have found certain people don't take care of these treasures. Quilts torn to shreds by their dogs, stored in boxes under their home in the dirt becoming homes for rats and cockroaches. Yuk! (Hawaii 8-)) So yes! I'd rather save my *homemade* stuff for people who know what they're getting. With this attitude in mind I have no problems telling people if they don't want it or like it? Give it back thankyou. :oops: :oops: :lol: |
I think people who don't make things , don't always appreciate them. I never give my projects to anyone who has not said they would like one or they just act like they really like something I have done. It saves my feelings and wasting my time and creativity and helps them not to receive a useless gift.
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I am so sorry to hear that. Some people just don't know how to be gracious and accept a homemade gift. Those are my favorites to get.
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I'm so sorry for your disappointment. Wouldn't it be nice if everyone had a hobby so that they would learn how to appreciate another one's work.
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Originally Posted by Chasing Hawk
Oh geez,
Take them all back and send them to us.......lol |
Sorry for your negative experience. I have had that happen also. I gift people that I know will be appreciative. The rest - no handmade gifts!! :)
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Yup! I know what you mean. That's a shame though. I found a bunch of purse/bag patterns and e-mailed them to my girls. They each picked out the one they liked and one said she just didn't like them at all. However, I still haben't finished them.
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Oh do I know your pain. DDIL asked me to make her a super sized King sized quilt, she picked the material, I supplied all work, labor, quilting, batting, backing. Then when she got it, she said she was going to use it as a couch throw?????????????
She liked it, but why did I need to make it so large if she was going to just throw it on the couch? |
My daughter might like a purse I made, but I wouldn't make one for granddaughter or DIL, I know they would not like or use them. I showed my daughter the bow tucks, and she thought it was nice, but not relly loving it, yet the next week she called and asked if I could make a purse using patchwork. So, will try to do that for her.
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Nuts
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I'm sorry that happened some people don't appreciate the work and love that goes into something homemade.
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Originally Posted by ftkls501
I am no longer going to make pureses for family I worked soooo hard getting every one a purse to only have them not like them. They were like oh ths is what you got us? It is not what i expected exspeacially after working so hard but one thing i have learned it is not their thing. I felt like i worked for nothing. I wish they could know how much work and love went into them.
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Wow-that is so sad hear. I made totes for my co-workers last year and they loved them and this year a co-worker was having a rought time--her husband isn't working so we decided not to give this year, but I still made tissue holders and they were all so happy with them. Like it was said by someone earlier--adopt me. ;)
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i always found its best to give people what they would like to receive instead of my giving them something i think they would like.
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I wish I could say this surprises me - but the way things are today, the homemade gift just isn't as cool as something store bought. I do not agree with this - I would have loved to have received one of the purses. Next year just give them all gift certificates.
That said, those of us on here appreciate, without even seeing them, all the love and work you put into your projects. Don't let their feelings stop you from creating and expressing yourself. |
Oh please adopt me!! I would LOVE a purse!! I believe homemade gifts are the best because they are made with so much thought and love. I have learned (from my lovely mother) to only make quilts for people who will truly love, treasure, and take care of them. I made a quilt for my new baby niece and I have never seen my SIL use it for the baby :(. For Christmas I made my oldest niece a quilt and when she saw the quilt she hugged it with such happiness. She has thanked me for it every day since Christmas. :D
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This has probably happened to all of us in one way or another ....
sometimes the person may just be jealous that she doesn't possess your talents! |
You know, I am so over this "they don't know how hard we work"..... what's with that attitude that they can't even be appreciative anymore.
I have given my sister a couple of quilts and she just doesn't appreciate them either. The last one I gave her was a lap quilt and she said, "what am I supposed to do with it".... I am so over her... |
Oh Oh! Sorry that happened to you. Maybe if there was a rule that all gifts had to be hand made then they'd appreciate it.
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Could we please see pics of the purses?
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give them all a $10.00 gift certificate next year. I bet you will have to shut their mouths so their jaw doesn't hit the floor!
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I have found this with the baby quilts I make. I now only make them for those who will really appreciate them. Saves me a lot dissapointment. I'm so sorry you experienced this.
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I'm so sorry this happened to you. But what really gets me mad is that I was taught to appreciate whatever I get, as most of us have. What happened to gratitude??? Even if I don't like something I ACT as though I love it b/c I do in the sense of someone giving me a gift, handmade or bought, it IS the thought that counts!
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