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Thread: am not going to make anymore for family

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    I am no longer going to make pureses for family I worked soooo hard getting every one a purse to only have them not like them. They were like oh ths is what you got us? It is not what i expected exspeacially after working so hard but one thing i have learned it is not their thing. I felt like i worked for nothing. I wish they could know how much work and love went into them.

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    so sorry that happened to you

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    That is part of the problem-they have no idea how much work or love goes into making a gift for someone. It is tough being disappointed in that way. I am sorry that happened to you!
    Many hugs, Ruth

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    Shame on them, I would be very grateful.

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    I am so sorry. Some people just don't appreciate our hard work.

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    wow, I made all the women in my family purses this yr for Christmas too, they all said they like them or at least thats what I was told, but i do think they did, it takes me about 4 hours a purse, its a labor of love, sorry this was a bad experience for you.

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    Yes, not everyone loves homemade gifts...sad, but true. Just make purses for those that do appreciate them and everyone else gets a gift card. (((( Hugs to you))))
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    I guess no one taught them basic manners...and as I say that, I'm hoping that 'they' aren't your kids! :)

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    Oh geez,

    Take them all back and send them to us.......lol

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    Hugs coming your way. I'm so sorry.

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    then adopt me. I love anything handmade and truly appreciate the hard work put into it.

    That said- my dil made me a bow tucks purse. I LOVE it!

    Don't feel unappreciated- they will come around.

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    I found that out this summer. I made bow tuck purses for DIL and DGDs (18 and 20) and no one thought much of them. My old lady, like me, friends love them. Live and learn.

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    I have been through that before. I feel for you. I am more particular now who I give my hand made things to.

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    You can adopt me too!!! I don't know how to sew anything but quilts.

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    Some just don't get it - they think only store bought will do :roll:
    So sorry you got the response - truly tacky :thumbdown:

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    Sorry, you efforts went unappreciated.

    What happened to manners. Even if someone gives me something that is not spot on to my likings, I am always thankful. If it is handmade even more so.

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    I am so sorry that your family reacted to all your hard work like that - it must be so upsetting - keep your chin up.

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    It almost sounds like they didn't even know you made them as opposed to *store-bought*. Whatever :-( Tell them how you feel. Let them know you thought about each person with love as you made their purse for them. Let them know that if they really don't like them you'll be glad to take them back to give to someone else. Ask them how they feel about your handmade gifts. If they honestly don't appreciate the gifts, it saves you worrying about trying so hard to please them.

    While I wish I could please all my relatives with my art, I have found certain people don't take care of these treasures. Quilts torn to shreds by their dogs, stored in boxes under their home in the dirt becoming homes for rats and cockroaches. Yuk! (Hawaii 8-))

    So yes! I'd rather save my *homemade* stuff for people who know what they're getting. With this attitude in mind I have no problems telling people if they don't want it or like it? Give it back thankyou. :oops: :oops: :lol:

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    I think people who don't make things , don't always appreciate them. I never give my projects to anyone who has not said they would like one or they just act like they really like something I have done. It saves my feelings and wasting my time and creativity and helps them not to receive a useless gift.

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    I am so sorry to hear that. Some people just don't know how to be gracious and accept a homemade gift. Those are my favorites to get.

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    I'm so sorry for your disappointment. Wouldn't it be nice if everyone had a hobby so that they would learn how to appreciate another one's work.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Chasing Hawk
    Oh geez,

    Take them all back and send them to us.......lol
    YES , I AGREE !! I'd LOVE LOVE LOVE a homeade purse ! Shame on them ; this is why I only make certain people things - the ones that will aprreciate them ! I know a gal that made her picky daughters purses and they were given back with the comment ' they are not my style ' . Goodness ; their MOM made them ! and they were all gorgeous . Shame shame . . . . . . . . :thumbup:

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    Sorry for your negative experience. I have had that happen also. I gift people that I know will be appreciative. The rest - no handmade gifts!! :)

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    Yup! I know what you mean. That's a shame though. I found a bunch of purse/bag patterns and e-mailed them to my girls. They each picked out the one they liked and one said she just didn't like them at all. However, I still haben't finished them.

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    Oh do I know your pain. DDIL asked me to make her a super sized King sized quilt, she picked the material, I supplied all work, labor, quilting, batting, backing. Then when she got it, she said she was going to use it as a couch throw?????????????

    She liked it, but why did I need to make it so large if she was going to just throw it on the couch?

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