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    My daughter might like a purse I made, but I wouldn't make one for granddaughter or DIL, I know they would not like or use them. I showed my daughter the bow tucks, and she thought it was nice, but not relly loving it, yet the next week she called and asked if I could make a purse using patchwork. So, will try to do that for her.

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    Nuts

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    I'm sorry that happened some people don't appreciate the work and love that goes into something homemade.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ftkls501
    I am no longer going to make pureses for family I worked soooo hard getting every one a purse to only have them not like them. They were like oh ths is what you got us? It is not what i expected exspeacially after working so hard but one thing i have learned it is not their thing. I felt like i worked for nothing. I wish they could know how much work and love went into them.
    Thats just rotten, I dont get why some people are just flat rude. I feel so bad for you. But dont let them get you down.

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    Wow-that is so sad hear. I made totes for my co-workers last year and they loved them and this year a co-worker was having a rought time--her husband isn't working so we decided not to give this year, but I still made tissue holders and they were all so happy with them. Like it was said by someone earlier--adopt me. ;)

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    i always found its best to give people what they would like to receive instead of my giving them something i think they would like.

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    I wish I could say this surprises me - but the way things are today, the homemade gift just isn't as cool as something store bought. I do not agree with this - I would have loved to have received one of the purses. Next year just give them all gift certificates.

    That said, those of us on here appreciate, without even seeing them, all the love and work you put into your projects. Don't let their feelings stop you from creating and expressing yourself.

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    Oh please adopt me!! I would LOVE a purse!! I believe homemade gifts are the best because they are made with so much thought and love. I have learned (from my lovely mother) to only make quilts for people who will truly love, treasure, and take care of them. I made a quilt for my new baby niece and I have never seen my SIL use it for the baby :(. For Christmas I made my oldest niece a quilt and when she saw the quilt she hugged it with such happiness. She has thanked me for it every day since Christmas. :D

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    This has probably happened to all of us in one way or another ....
    sometimes the person may just be jealous that she doesn't possess your
    talents!

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    You know, I am so over this "they don't know how hard we work"..... what's with that attitude that they can't even be appreciative anymore.

    I have given my sister a couple of quilts and she just doesn't appreciate them either. The last one I gave her was a lap quilt and she said, "what am I supposed to do with it".... I am so over her...

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    Oh Oh! Sorry that happened to you. Maybe if there was a rule that all gifts had to be hand made then they'd appreciate it.

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    Could we please see pics of the purses?

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    give them all a $10.00 gift certificate next year. I bet you will have to shut their mouths so their jaw doesn't hit the floor!

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    I have found this with the baby quilts I make. I now only make them for those who will really appreciate them. Saves me a lot dissapointment. I'm so sorry you experienced this.

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    I'm so sorry this happened to you. But what really gets me mad is that I was taught to appreciate whatever I get, as most of us have. What happened to gratitude??? Even if I don't like something I ACT as though I love it b/c I do in the sense of someone giving me a gift, handmade or bought, it IS the thought that counts!

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    That is so sad. I have always believed handmade gifts were the absolute best! ..but unfortunately I have come to realize that not everyone shares this belief :cry: When you take the time to make a gift you are usually giving something nicer than you could afford to spend on a store bought item and yours will be made better and MADE IN THE USA how often does that happen anymore?! I have found that when someone I know does not care for "homemade" they receive a small gift certificate, maybe just a $5 one from their favorite gas/Convenience store for a cup of coffee and donut, its someplace they go and something they can use. If this is not graciously received then the next step is I donate to the local soup kitchen or food bank where I know it will be appreciated.

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    It is amusing when family is unappreciative, but if you make something and donate it the recipient is happy!

    I have the same experience with my mother-in-law. Her Christmas gifts were received with, "Oh, you do much better work now than 30 years ago." Now wasn't that a backhanded compliment.

    Not making anything for her....gift certificates or nothing!

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    I feel for you. I had something like that happen to me. That is why now I am so selected who gets anything I make. Now they have to mention more than once for me to make them something.
    This year I made potholders and handed them out, I told people if they didn't want one it was ok, I would give it to someone else. Everyone acted like they really liked them.
    But before I take the time to make a purse or larger I'm checking with them if they would use it.....Too much time and work go into them.....

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    I'm so sorry this has happened to you. I do undertand how you feel. My family isn't into homemade items. This has happened with a quilt I made for my mother that she thought she liked when I was making it. I gave it to her when I was finished only to have it replaced with a store bought comforter within a month. Live and learn I guess.

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    I am so sorry your family members didn't like the purses you made them with so much love. I remember seeing a couple of the pictures of your purses that you posted, and I would be very proud to own one !! Some people just don't "get it".

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    We are all artists and crafters in our own right...those who do not share our passions or have no patience for handcrafting gifts do not even begin to know what goes into making something especially for someone. They have no clue....so just chalk it up to their ignorance and know in your heart that you made something for them with your love. Some day they may understand.

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    I'm sorry that happened to you also; I learned the same lesson a long time ago...
    :thumbdown:

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    Its a shame people can be like that. I have been a hobby artist most of my life, and I have experienced first hand how people take for granted the time and affection put into creating. They dont seem to appreciate an item was tailored for them (find that at wal-mart). Thank God there are some people that still understand the value of handmade!

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    I'm right there with you. I made my sister a table runner with matching coasters. I made sure every seam matched perfectly.
    I couldn't have made it any more perfect. My whole family was at her house for Christmas. I heard that she didn't even hold it up to show anyone. Really disappointing. I agree with you, I won't be making anything for her again. On the flip side, I made a large lap quilt for my best friend and she just loved it.
    At least we know we did our best, just move on to your next project, and chaulk it up to a learning experience.

    Wishing you a wonderful New Year :-D

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    I worked hard with someone making a purse and there is no way I will try another......for a while anyway. Don't be to sad. They really have no idea but they could have been kinder about it. I tell anyone I give a quilt that if they do not like it it will not hurt my feelings. My dd wanted to pick their own material which was fine by me. and a younger sister saw one I was working on from off a tut and she asked who it was for and I said her if she "really" liked it. so that's the deal. I make one and if I get no feedback that will be the only one they get. not to be mean but it is a lot of work !!! especially when one is new at it !! But I will keep on making them , it is a much for me as whoever is getting it !! I pray for them as I make it too. So nothing is lost !! gentle hugs

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