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teddysmom 02-02-2012 07:54 AM

My DH THOUGHT he wanted to learn to quilt because he had grown up watching his grandmother when she pieced. So, he bought a pattern and some fat quarters. THEN, he cut the pieces into 5"squares and began the piecing step. He found out he likes the IDEA of quilting rather than the actual process. Now, he butts into my work and tries to tell me a better way to do something. I wish he would leave me alone and let me have MY hobby. He plays golf with some of his friends and when he does, I STAY HOME. He has his golf and I want my QUILTING.

BuzzinBumble 02-02-2012 08:11 AM

It's a wonderful idea to share such a fun passion with your DH and it would be great for you to have an "in house' quilting buddy... that is IF it would work. It depends on how well you and your hubby rub along while working together or in small areas. Maybe you could give it a try and work out some guidelines together? (such as asking before cutting up stash)
For instance: How do you do together in the kitchen? My DH and I don't share the kitchen very well. He is a wonderful cook and I know I am blessed. But, when cooking together, he tries to take over whatever I am doing and he uses every pan we own and makes a huge mess, while I am a "clean as you go along" type of cook and my slwness drives him crazy. ... I can't imagine sharing my sewing space with him. I'd get upset at the mess. He needs a hobby too, but maybe one that doesn't use the same resources.
Good luck in helping your DH find his passion!

Anna.425 02-02-2012 08:15 AM

Definitely teach him to quilt but make sure he has his own quilting space.

amyjo 02-02-2012 08:20 AM


Originally Posted by Anna.425 (Post 4935126)
Definitely teach him to quilt but make sure he has his own quilting space.

Make sure he takes a class so he won't be overwhelmed by your expertise. I think it would be fun. Just think of how much more stash you can accumulate. If you have some really fav's you don't want him to touch--label it. I wish my DH would do that instead of falling asleep in front of the tv. He has promised me a sewing room addition, but don't know when that will happen.

cattailsquilts 02-02-2012 08:24 AM

Why not? My husband does needlepoint & counted cross-stitch (though he hasn't done any for a long time), and he gives me input when I'm stuck on a quilt. I really value his input, because it turns out he's got a phenomenal eye for pattern & color, and has been able to help me get un-stuck.

KathyPhillips 02-02-2012 09:38 AM

You and I have something in common! My husband retired 1 1/2 yrs. ago from the Burlington/Northern Santa Fe Railroad where he worked for 36 yrs. We could never plan on doing anything with him. If he was at home, fine, but he was often gone for over 24 hrs. The phone would ring and he was gone within an hour.
I quilt. My sister, nieces and I quilted together. My Mother and aunts quilted. My two Grandmothers quilted. They all quilted by hand and pieced the quilts by hand. When we showed my Mom how to use the rotary cutter and sew the quilts by hand, she realized how much quicker she could make quilts for her 24 grandchildren and 50 greatgrandchildren!

Kathy

DeMaris 02-02-2012 09:43 AM

OMG!!! My husband is the same way....and I will not teach him. I want my hobby to be my hobby. I'm sure he will be very good at it, however, I am getting ready to go to a Longarm Class at the Longarm University and he wants to go with me......lol. I will give up quilting first...LOL.

Good Luck

Quilterfay 02-02-2012 09:51 AM

I did!
 
When I first started Quilting my husband decided he wanted to do it as well. So we bought him a sewing machine, a rotary cutter as it was a pain sharing the tools.

He made a wall hanging and a small quilt. When he made the quilt the first block he made was a fire bird. He is a prefectionist so he did a very good job. But after that he went on to something else.

I do suggest to him that he should do some more but he seems to have lost interest.

He did mention one day that he would like to learn how to use my short arm quilting frame. So when we get home in from being snowbirds I will show him how to do that.

Teri D 02-02-2012 09:54 AM

I think it might be fun for both of you but I'd strongly caution you against trying to teach him yourself. Suggest he sign up for a beginning class so he'll get an idea about what's involved and find out if he really wants to pursue this hobby. You will have something to discuss and you can be his "resident consultant" but you won't have the stress of being his teacher. If the bug bites, then he'll be on his way. If not, then he'll still have greater understanding of what you do AND you won't wonder if you did something "wrong" trying to teach him. It will be HIS decision whether to continue or not. If he does, he will undoubtedly begin to develop his own style and/or go his own direction in the hobby and won't feel "obligated" to do it YOUR way. You'll both learn from each other.

You might also suggest that he accompany you to a quilt show, on a "Shop Hop" or to your local guild meetings. Discuss the quilts in quilt books and magazines -- which ones "grab" his attention? what colorways does he gravitate to? (you both might be surprised!) People can get involved in hobbies in many different ways and trying to teach him how YOU do it might be too stressful for both of you.

Donna in Mo 02-02-2012 10:20 AM

Might be a little too much togetherness. Just a thought.


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