Camping Betty

Is there a limit to how many people to have in a quilting guild
I mention to someone that I would love to join but they didn't have an opening. but wanted me to go to a retreat with them so they would have enough people.I declined because I wouldn't feel comfortable not know the people. was I wrong?

fabric_fancy

no i don't think you're wrong, i don't blame you for not wanting to go on a retreat with a bunch of people you don't know.

catrancher

If you aren't welcome in the guild, why on earth would you want to "retreat" with them? Sheesh. The nerve... I know there are some great guilds out there, but I've yet to find one. I graduated high school long ago. Don't need to return to the game playing at my age.

dunster

Some guilds have limits on how many can join, and that is their right. With one group I heard the limit was set because of how many chairs were available where they met. But to ask you to be part of the group when they need you and not when they don't is just rude IMHO.

QuiltQtrs

Just say NO to joining, and attending their retreat. Sounds too snobbish for me.

Scissor Queen

Some guilds do limit memberships for a variety of reasons. But you should have gone to the retreat if you eventually want to join the guild. Then they would know you and want you to join!! Not only that, by the end of the retreat you would know them too.

Honeynga

I don't belong to the local guild and have been "afraid" to even attend a meeting. I'm a very new quilter and I've seen quilts and/or photos of quilts that come from these folks at the guild......just don't have enough confidence to go yet.

I would be greatly offended if the local guild didn't have room for me to join but wanted me to go on retreat !!!! I for certain wouldn't go on a retreat with a bunch of people that I didn't know, or probably wouldn't want to get to know !

Yarn or Fabric

Wow that is really rude of them... you're not welcome to our meetings and activities buuuuut we need someone else to come on the retreat so we can go... so can you come?

I don't think I'd join with them even after someone quits their group. I hope you find another place.

EIQuilter

I agree with Scissor Queen. The guild has a right to limit the number of members (although it would be nice to know why the limit was placed), but to start to get to know the members and have the opportunity to have some quilting fellowship, I probably would have accepted the invitation to the retreat. The guild isn't rejecting you personally, so hopefully you aren't taking it that way.

hopetoquilt

Perhaps I am eternally optimistic but perhaps they only have meeting room for a certain # of people and had to limit it for that reason. Feeling badly about excluding you, she thought you might be interested in joining them on a retreat. Some people love to jump in with a new group and love to meet new people (the more adventurous and outgoing) while others would not be comfortable. Unless it seemed like a blatant way to exclude you and then "use" you to fill a space, I would look at it as a way to include you in a retreat.