Originally Posted by
nanna-up-north
I just can't make quilts for other people that they want me to make for them.... for money. It just makes me feel uneasy. I figure they think I've charged too much but they don't have a clue about the time and $$$ you spend putting one together. I did a baby quilt once after a friend saw one I made. I told him I'd make one just like it for $100 hoping he'd say he'd find something in a store. But, he had to have me make the quilt. He said he loved it, paid me the money but I still felt uneasy. Now, I just tell people I'll help them make the quilt. They usually don't want to do that.
If you are working for pay, it's business even if the payer/client is a friend.
A wise real estate instructor once told me, "Business is business" This is hard for some women because they do not or can not value their worth/work/creativity outside the home. Even when reminded that a friend is not some one in the family or their home, it's hard to separate their personal space or value out.
I bring this up NOT to criticize (been there myself!), but to encourage women in general to recognize they have value beyond spousing, parenting, and housekeeping, because to not doing so affects and devalues all women who are making their way by the labor of their hands and minds.
Maybe, maybe this age-old attitude is changing a bit in the younger generation of today. (It sometimes sure seems like they feel they deserve everything else handed to them!)
Jan in VA