Originally Posted by
quilterpurpledog
You can never know ahead of time what emotion your thoughtfulness is going to evoke. If your heart says to be generous, then be generous. You are not responsible for the outcome. But, as I read your post, I think that there has to be some reason for her reaching out to you from time to time. If you can't feel gracious as opposed to obligated, don't do it. She will never know your dither kind of feelings.
Love this response. I gifted a quilt to my aunt whom I hadn't seen but had corresponded with at Christmas. It was the beginning of a wonderful close relationship for the remainder of her days. I always try and err on the generous side.