Stitchnripper

I have a dilemma. I was asked by the daughters of my former brother in law who has passed to make a quilt from his shirts for his wife. I am almost done. Here is the thing. I was married to his brother, we got divorced, my ex, the second wife forbade contact and it was easier for all to do that. The ex passed first and then we all reconnected. Even though I am married to Mr. Stitchnripper, I kept the last name of my ex, because it is the same as my children. So, I want the label to say "In Loving Memory of John Doe, 1-1-11 to 2-2-22". My quilting friends say I need to put my name on it. I hesitate because I am not really a part of that family, although my sons are first cousins to their daughters and they are all close and Mr. Stitchnripper and I are back in contact with them. So to put my name with same last name I think would confuse things down the road. To put my first name and Mr. Stitchnripper's last name would confuse things even further because no one would know who that is.

So, please help me out. What to put on the label!
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