Friends and honesty
10-18-2011, 06:07 PM
#21
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Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: Georgia
Posts: 2,048
I am always truthful but try not to be brutal. A friend once told me you (I) know you could insult a person and it be half an hour later before they realized it.
However, I don't offer opinons unless asked unless I am at work...as QA it is my job to help :) .
However, I don't offer opinons unless asked unless I am at work...as QA it is my job to help :) .
10-18-2011, 06:09 PM
#22
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Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: Melrose N.Y. Troy Area
Posts: 863
I like honesty and don't sugar coat things, because my friends know I don't sugar coat anything, infact at work because its like this and not sugar coating things I tended to get into trouble oh well its black and white and not a rainbow in my life
10-18-2011, 06:43 PM
#25
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Join Date: Oct 2011
Location: Heart of Dixie, Sweet Home Alabama
Posts: 1,011
[quote=mom-6]I definitely believe in being honest, but I also believe in being tactful with that honesty. The way you say what you say can either be hurtful or helpful. Strive to only be helpful. If it could be hurtful, try to find a way to say it that will take as much of the sting away as possible.]
I agree with this totally!
I agree with this totally!
10-18-2011, 07:51 PM
#27
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Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: USA
Posts: 374
If I don't ask for an opinion, I don't want one even from a friend. I don't understand how a "friend" could put you on the defensive....I frankly don't care what anyone thinks of what I've done or going to do unless I ask for their opinion. Unasked for constuctive criticism, in the name of honesty, is for the birds...just my opinion....lol. It's just hurtful and no one wants to be near that person long.
This is making me sound heartless and I'm sorry for that. It's just that I had a MIL who's middle name was Constructive Criticism. She couldn't understand after Dad died why no one came around anymore. I couldn't burst her righteous balloon and tell her.
This is making me sound heartless and I'm sorry for that. It's just that I had a MIL who's middle name was Constructive Criticism. She couldn't understand after Dad died why no one came around anymore. I couldn't burst her righteous balloon and tell her.
10-18-2011, 08:01 PM
#28
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Location: Western Wisconsin
Posts: 12,930
Originally Posted by CloverPatch
I find people that feel the need to be totally "honest" all the time Don't know the difference between honestly and uncensorsored personal oppinion.
Those kinds of friends i DON"T need or want to hear their "honesty"
Those kinds of friends i DON"T need or want to hear their "honesty"
I will be honest when a question is asked. I don't feel obliged to give my opinion when I'm not asked for it.
10-18-2011, 08:04 PM
#29
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Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: SoCal
Posts: 11,916
There is a difference between being honest and blurting everything out. If something needs to be said then I do not hold back but if it will not do anything and has no purpose I try to bite my tongue. Life is too short to cut people down even if it is the truth.
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