adriansmom

It with a very heavy heart that I have to let everyone know that Cathy lost her fight with Wegener's early this morning and was called. I found her in the bedroom where she lay, which was a thing that she wanted, She was terrified that she would die in the hospital of pneumonia.

I can tell each of you on here that she truly was very thankful for the opportunity to call this site her "home" and the kindness and generosity that was shown to us after the fire was very humbling and appreciated more than I can express to each and everyone of you on here. She was energized so much by what you all had to say to her to help her grow in her short time on here as a quilter and a more caring person.

We will miss her so much and remember the good things that she helped with when she could. Cathy was 36 and lived the last part of her life as best as she could. And her most happiest moment was when we got Adrian and brought him home from the hospital when he was two days old and finalized his adoption in march of 06. As you may or may not know Cathy could not have children due to her illness and she so wanted to be a "mommy" and this was her dream come true.

I asked Adrian if he wanted to say good-bye to mommy(we are having her cremated), and he said that he did. So I took him to her and let him say what he needed to and lifted him up and let him kiss her forehead and tossle her hair one last time and told her good-bye and good-night. Which was REALLY hard for me to hear 'cause I know there are more to come!!! AND I HATE KNOWING IT!!!!! But we sat and talked for some time and he asked alot of questions and I answered them as best I could. I told him that she was running and jumping and playing with Sasha and Misha and those who were waiting for her and us when our time comes to join them. And he liked that part and said that we needed to bury her cellular phone with her because she was going to need it(sniff sniff). I told him that she in such a perfect place that she would have no use for the phone anymore and was watching over us and making sure that we were OK. He also asked if were going to replace mommy and get a different mommy. I told him that no one could ever "replace" mommy because she was an original and there is no one else like her in the whole world. We talked and hugged and talked some more for about 15-20 minutes and he knows that mommy is gone and that we have bury her and all of that, but I am not sure he understand that mommy won't be home now when he gets home from school. I will just have to be there when he needs me and answer his questions truthfully and honestly in a way that he can understand. He seems more upset that we are upset and missing Mommy right now. But time will of course tell.

Cathy was my wife for almost 11 years(Sept.4th 1999) and we had a rough go of things and I can say that didn't like each other sometimes, but in the background we always loved each other.
I am really going to miss Cathy my wife who brought out the better side of me rather than the "worse half" as I have posted before on here. It was a pleasure for her to be here and I would ask that you remember her in a way that you feel fitting. Raise a glass or plant a tree(she would like that by the way!) or sit a spell with someone close and just "be there" with them.

If anyone would like to contact me you may do so. Easiest way would be Facebook of course but I will check back here for awhile.

Arron Smith Omaha. NE network. Thak you all agian for letting Cathy be a part of this group! She loved it!!!! ALOT!!!!!

sharon b

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So sorry for your loss . If there is anything we can do ,please let us know. Thank you for letting us know . She will be missed . Hold Adrian close he will need you and you will need .

earthwalker

How difficult for you to have to write this....sending you and Adrian love, light and peace from the land of Aus.x

wvdek

I am sorry for you and Adrian's loss.

Chasing Hawk

So sorry for the loss of your wife and Adrian's Mommy.
Your son is so lucky to have you with him now more than ever.

I think I will plant my container garden this coming week so Cathy has something to look at on her journey home.

QuiltingTurtle

I am very sorry for your loss. God bless.

candlequilter

I am so sorry for your loss and having each other now will be a wonderful blessing for both you and your son. God bless all of you.

Butterflyspain

I was so sad to read your post about Cathy. I know what you are going through because I too lost my DH in March from Cancer, its a long haul my friend, but youhave that little one to care for so stay strong. Funnily enough my last name is Smith as well.

Take care and look after yourself you need your strength.

Elle

raptureready

My prayers go out to you. I know this sounds trite at a time like this but time will heal. My first husband lost his battle with cancer in June of 87. Time has healed the wound although the scar will always be there. Just stay focused on Adrian, be prepared for some "acting out", and get counseling for him if needed. Although sometimes children are far more accepting than we are. {{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}} to both of you. Just get through each day at a time for right now.
Alfreda

QuiltingGrannie

So sorry to hear the news about Cathy. Prayers for you and Adrian.
Thank you for sharing.
You may not be a quilter but you can post here anytime, we are here for you to lean on.
Sounds like you did a fine job explaining it all to Adrian and I love how he wanted Cathy to have her cell phone. Kids are such a blessing and have such a way with what they think and say. Hold on to the memories and share them with Adrian.

Take care. Love and hugs to you both.