I went to an interview on Monday and they asked me for a list of my references. During the interview the person asked me if I know someone and I said yes. He asked if he could call her as my reference and I said I rather have him call the people on my list. I know this woman, but we never worked together and she can not have any opinion about my abilities to perform a job. I know she doesn't like me. For the last few month in one of my previous jobs she was the secretary of the lab director. I informed him of a situation by e-mail (the only way to reach him) and she deleted the message because she didn't feel it was important. It got me in trouble and later got her in trouble for deleting it (sorry, I am not going to let someone yell at me when I did nothing wrong). If they do call her and she gives me a bad reference, what are my rights? How can I defend myself?