Sending you big HUGS. It seems more than a few quilters have had similiar experiences at guilds. They all seem to be different.
I would concentrate on finding a few other like minded individuals who quilt and making your own little group. Four or five people who really just like to get together to sew.
My pet peeve with "my" quilt guild is that they are so "tied" up with business that it doesn't seem to be about sewing. We are getting ready for a quilt show and it's all about trying to get people to volunteer to do different jobs. This has been going on for several months and I do hope we can get back to sewing and talking about quilting.