I think it goes both ways too. I've seen some new members sit way in the back or take a seat at any empty table and never say a word to anyone and only say yes or no or nod when anyone talks to them and won't move to a seat closer up front when asked to join a group. I asked one new potential member if she would like to tell us a little about herself and what type of quilting she likes do do and she said No I rather not. Her tone put many on guard so they didn't mingle with her much. She never came back but later we found out she was saying how unfriendly the guild was.