Originally Posted by mortinarose
It is sad that grown women act like they are in high school. I belong to a sewing group and it is ok. At first it was more friendly and fun. There are things they talk about or go to and never ask me as I'm the newcomer although it has been a couple of years. I'm not the best quilter but I hold my own. I almost stopped going because in conversation I felt left out but I enjoy getting out and there are some women that don't come every time but when they do it is a lot more fun so I just go hoping one of them will be there. Some act like it is their club so maybe next year I will find another place to go. I live in a remote area so it isn't easy to find a group. Then I think hey who are you??? and just go and ignore the coldness and enjoy.I figure it ticks them off more when a couple of us outsiders come which makes me smile!!!
We had that happen even in our informal group of quilters with the women who were in the Red Hat clubs constantly talking about and planning their next meetings and trips. One had to be invited to join the Red Hats, so if you weren't a member yet you felt left out. One day one of our younger women (the pretty one) had had enough of being ignored. She exploded at them, asking why were they being so rude? She was hurt and, of course, I entered right at that moment. I went up to her, giving her a big hug and trying to calm her down. Later, she telephoned me, thanking me for my concern and telling me that she had asked to join the Red Hats, but had been ignored. I reminded her that she was our pretty member and thin to boot, so maybe that's why she was never invited to the Red Hats.
We really did not know how you control such chatter. I do not think the ladies meant to be rude, just unaware of any hurt they were causing. I agree with your statement that you keep on showing up and stay right in their faces! :lol: