Jerrie, I know exactly how you feel - I am in the same boat! My sil had the gastric bypass done and she is even heavier than before the surgery 4 years ago. A friend - who was a nurse - had the lapband done 2 or maybe 3 times, but ate the wrong foods, and lost maybe 5 pounds at the most. Then she dieted and exercised and has lost about 90 pounds or more. Have you thought about Biggest Loser retreat in Utah? I have been looking into it - I just can't lose by myself!! I HATE being fat but I am stuck!