Randy and I had a special way to get the kids to stay home while we went somewhere. If you ask my kids "Hey, do you want to go to Home Depot?" They run the other way. They didn't even care if we went out to eat as long as we had a Home Depot bag with us, they never said a word.
Another way we got the kids to leave us alone was to ask them to come and weed the garden. We had lots of long talks sitting on the grass by the garden and pulling a couple of weeds.
You know, there are just some times when having 10 kids just gets to you and you need a time out!