Not just quilt groups are like this. I moved to a new area, went to a new church, and sat down. Was told I couldn't sit there because so and so always sits there. Each time I moved I was told the same thing. Apparently they have their 'cliques' who always sit together in the same seats. I ended up sitting right up the back. Anyone I said hello to after the service when we were having a cup of tea/coffee, just looked at me and grunted. Felt like saying that "I can get a grunt out of a pig any time I poke it", but decided not to lower myself to their level. Needless to say, I never went back.