It is aggravating and hurtful when NON-quilters or sewers just don't GET IT ! Many people just don't appreciate something handmade or without a designer label
I have a hard time with these perfectly-coordinated, overly-picky brides & moms-to-be today ...
Guess my AGE is showing, we were happy to get ANYTHING when we got married & had babies ... it didn't have to come from a designer registry or be matchy-matchy.
A gift is supposed to be a GIFT ... not a dictate from the recipient ... might as well just hand out cash to people ... sad
I've made numerous baby quilts for family & friends in 20 yrs. One niece of ours said "Oh, you MADE this?" but showed no more enthusiasm for it than the STORE BOUGHT gifts she opened ! But I still keep making them ... most are treasured & loved.
Make that quilt anyway - or make a birthday quilt when they are 2 or 3 (guaranteed to be loved) and who cares what SIL thinks ! :)