there is no reason to be hurt. she isn't rejecting you. her taste is simply not evolved enough to realize what she's turning down. don't feel sorry for yourself. feel sorry for her.
don't waste your time, money and effort making something you've already been told is not wanted. you'll just feel badly all over again when it doesn't get used.
give her a pottery barn gift certificate worth half what you would have invested in the quilt. spend the other half on yourself. ;-)