Well that's why I have an "extra" lap quilt sitting in my closet. In my mind I was making it for my niece, when she saw it and didnt like it. Luckily I hadnt given it to her already. From then on, I let them pick out their colors or style. If Im am going to all that trouble, I want it to be something they will cherish. Making a quilt is alot like buying a pair of jeans, it is really tough to do it for somebodyelse.
Think about it this way instead...now you will know she really does love it when she gets her black and red one and isnt just saying it to save face.